It may not seem like it, but I truly don’t want to give this guy any more publicity than he already has. I keep intending to leave this story, I really do. I guess I’m just still that damn mad about the whole thing. There’s that, coupled with more information slowly coming out that must not be ignored.
If you watched this season of “The Bachelor” staring latin lover, Juan Pablo something or another, you know what went down with him and Clare Crawley. Piecing together the whole picture truly makes Juan Pablo a despicable human being and I will tell you why.
Very early on in the season, Clare snuck off and went to Juan Pablo’s suite to ask him to swim with her in the ocean – “a bucket list item”, she said. Now, by no means, do I mean to paint Clare as an innocent victim here. That said, like so many women, my guess is that she thought if she could get him to have sex with her, he would fall in love with her. Don’t dismiss this theory. Ladies, back me up here. Plenty of women have used this tactic. Some successful, some not. In general, it’s not recommended.
We know they were alone several times after that night, throughout the entire season and now we know why. In fact, Clare made it all the way to the final two. Juan Pablo answered Clare’s question, “Just tell me you love me”, his response, “I love f*ing you but I don’t know you”.
What does all of this add up to?
It’s not pretty. Not pretty at all. It’s very clear from the 2nd part of his comment, the “I don’t know you” part, that their time together was spent getting physical. Juan Pablo is a bigger dbag than we ever realized. He kept Clare around to have a “piece on the side” while he dated the other women. Essentially, he objectified Clare from the get go and never took her feelings in to account. Clare even called him on it the night before the final rose. She told him point blank, “if this is just a physical thing, tell me now and I’m out of here”. He assured her that, “no, you’re special to me, that is why you are here”.
Any man, with any shred of empathy would have owned up. Juan Pablo did not. He used Clare for sex and told her as much. Then lied to her to keep her there so he could publicly reject and humiliate her on national television.
I seriously just threw up a little in my mouth. Why? Because of this comment Juan Pablo made to People Magazine:
“She was expecting me to propose, I get it, but you don’t have to come at me like that,” he says. “It was childish. She disappointed me.”
Juan Pablo used Clare and set her up and she’s the childish, disappointing one??? No woman wants a man capable of this kind of manipulation. Nikki, don’t say you haven’t been warned.
Talk to you all soon….after I cool down. xoxo