Before I start, there is one thing we can all agree on. Kenya Moore is a strikingly beautiful woman. She has a kind of exotic look about her. Any man with a pulse would do a double take as she passed by. Her beauty and strength of character could be and is a turn off for some women. Why? From the MASSES of tweets I received following the show, it’s because those women are insecure about themselves and the relationships they are in.
On last night’s episode of RHOA, Kenya planned a couples trip to Mexico. This was planned on the heels of a Charity function Kenya arranged which turned into a disaster and the “Bailey Bowl”, also a disaster. Nonetheless, Kenya said she wanted to “extend the olive branch” to the ladies to try to patch up their ups and downs friendship.
In last night’s episode, the husbands were hanging out in the cigar bar. Kenya came in and joined the men for a cigar. Where were the other ladies? No idea but they were not there. She and the men were having a good time just talking to one another. Kenya ordered a couple of rounds of shots of tequila. Many call alcohol, truth serum and, if nothing else, a couple of shots would loosen everyone up. I am sure Kenya had this in mind when she ordered them.
Kenya pulled Apollo to the side to another table to discuss their rocky past. It was a pleasant, light-hearted conversation. All Kenya wanted was for Apollo to admit nothing happened between them. Even though the conversation took place in a well lighted, public bar, in front of the other men as well as camera’s and crew, the twitter backlash towards Kenya was HUGE.
How do I know? Because I got caught right in the middle of it!
I responded to a tweet and said, “it was in a room full of people and cameras.They were hardly alone.” I then put my phone down and did some other things. I picked it back up about 30 minutes later and had over loads twitter notifications. What the hell?
Kenya Moore responded to my tweet by saying, “Exactly, LOL.” So from that point forward, everyone arguing about who is to blame and pushing their point copied me on it as well. Many felt like Kenya was somehow disrespectful for talking to Apollo. Others, (including myself) did not see a problem with it. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and twitter is a great forum to express that.
Through all of the tweets (which I just read through again) there was one point that was completely missing. Only 2 people (3 if you count me) put any of the blame on Apollo!
After he beat “red silk P J’s guy” half to death, he told Phaedra (on camera) he was trying to stop a fight. She believed him and blames, guess who? Kenya! Incidentally, Nene also blames Kenya for this fight. Last time I checked, she didn’t hit anyone. If these men cannot control their tempers, that’s on them.
In this case, almost nobody blamed Apollo for talking to Kenya. It was ALL her fault according to many twitter followers. Sorry Ladies, Apollo could have walked away, or asked Todd to stay but he did not.
So many people were mean and nasty to Kenya, is was disgusting. One stooped so low as to say, “she would say exactly cause ur classless! That’s why u can’t have baby its ur karma! #aloneforever haha“. Most of the tweets I did not respond to but this one? No, I could not let it go. I responded, “Regardless of your feelings on this, what you said was way over the line. Karma works both ways my friend.” This person (who will not get notoriety from my blog) is still trying to argue with me even now! I finally blocked this person.
Other comments I received included:
“It’s about respect. They are married. Get some class.”
“even the shaman was sad”
“clear her name? Lol. He definitely could have worked that out if he wanted to.”
“It says a lot about about a woman who hangout w/men alone @Cigarbar and drinking. #trashy & #sleezy.
And on and on. So disappointing. Shocking and sad.
The underlying tone of everyone who was hammering Kenya seemed to be that men can’t control themselves, so she should not have approached him. Likewise, the fight a couple of weeks ago, the men couldn’t control themselves and once again blame was pointed at Kenya. Listen to me carefully here, that is absolutely RIDICULOUS. And an insult to all of the trustworthy, self-controlled men out there.
Kenya did what she set out to do. She was non-confrontational and it was the right approach. She cleared her name while the cameras were rolling. Well done friend. Many twitter followers agree because my statement has tons of retweets.
If anyone should have a problem, it should be Phaedra with Apollo, and not over last night’s conversation. She should have a huge problem that Apollo cannot be trusted and has a terrifying temper. She has small children in their home. He should be kicked to the curb. Keeping a “tight leash” on a man is no way to live. I bet this marriage will end. Soon.
These ladies should hold their men accountable for the things they do and say. And give Kenya a break.
Ultimately, I would like to say to all of the women out there: we should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. We should truly care for each other and be delighted for each others successes. Stick up for one another. Have each others back. Be a true friend.
Talk to you soon! xoxo