It may seem strange for me (who married last April to the most wonderful man I’ve ever known) to be writing about single people on Valentine’s Day. My reason is simple. I spent many years alone on Valentine’s Day and know exactly how crappy that day can be for single as well as the unhappily married. I want to give you some practical ideas and facts for you to lean on this Valentine’s Day:
1. Being married does not guarantee a great Valentine’s Day. Just because someone is married, does not mean they are happy and it certainly does not mean all married people get chocolates and flowers.(I am living proof. I was married to my now ex for 13 years. I don’t remember ever receiving anything for Valentine’s Day).
2. Single today but not single forever. Just because you are single or unhappily not single does not mean it will always be that way. You may think you know what your romantic future is but you truly have no idea.
3. This is a big one. Look out for each other. Single or married, no one should be alone on Valentine’s Day. Plan a friends night out or get your pals together to play game or have a movie night. Do something for your friends to make them feel special.
4. Stay away from alcohol. Drowning your sorrows in wine may seem like a good idea at the time. However, alcohol is a depressant. Whatever comfort you get at the time, you will feel twice as bad the next day. Depression + hangover = disaster.
5. It’s only one day. February 15th, everything is back to normal. It’s just one day. It’s just not that serious.
Perspective around the holidays is so necessary to make the most of the day. Whatever you do, I wish you a very Happy Valentine’s Day!