They say “hind sight is 20/20”. However, we don’t just magically wake up one day with unlimited knowledge and wisdom. We love to think, “if I knew then what I know now”….imagine if you HAD known. There are many things I know now that I wish I knew then. These are my top 5 because they are potential game changers.
1. Taking care of your body early on, sets the map of your health for the rest of your life. Not eating right, getting enough sleep, exercising, coping with stress adequately are just a few of the things I wish I had done better. In my 40’s, I am paying for them now, in a BIG way.
2. Love is NOT the most important thing in a relationship. Does it need to be there? Yes, but it is not the most important element of a successful relationship. Trust is #1. Let me say that again. Trust is the MOST important factor in a successful relationship. Think about it. Have you ever loved someone that you could not trust? I have and it’s a miserable existence. Without trust, love is virtually useless.
3. Paying more attention to my education will make for an easier life. Does a degree insure a job and career success? No. However, higher education does make you a more well rounded person. College opens your eyes to the adult world, with all of it’s pits and valleys. A thirst for knowledge typically does not come until later in life. But at that time, jobs, spouses, children, deadlines etc. make getting that degree infinitely harder.
4. Save my money. Sounds simple right? This is actually something I wish I’d realized from the the time of the first job I ever had (at about age 15). For a precious few years, we are in a unique position which we will likely never be in again. We are old enough to work and young enough to live at home bill free and debt free. No overhead at all, we don’t even have to pay for food! It’s so hard for our money not burn a hole in our pocket. The desire to own the latest and greatest is so overwhelming. Imagine if you had saved 50% of your earning for those few years….a nice nest egg to have when it’s time to spread your wings and fly.
5. I can’t “mother” the world. This one is specific more towards females than males, but not 100% so. It’s a wonderful thing to want to help others; listen to their problems, advise them, be available to them 24/7. While I am certainly not suggesting we should not help others, it should be a balancing act. Balance helping others work on themselves with working on yourself. Without doing this, fast forward 20 years and find yourself constantly helping others, in some cases, being taken advantage of. It is NOT selfish to focus on yourself. By doing so, you become a better person; a better friend, a better spouse, a better parent, a better and more productive citizen.
So these are my 5 – my top 5. This list, if I sat back and thought about it long enough, would be pretty close to endless. I don ‘t recommend it. These are things I really wish I knew and am trying very hard to teach my own child. Do I wish I’d known? Sure! Do I have any regrets? NO. Everything I have done and learned in my life thus far as contributed in making me the person I am today. I am very happy with who that person is.
What are your top 5? Please list them in the comment section of this blog. What did I leave out? What is more important than my 5 in your life? Can’t wait to hear from you!